Picking a Date=Complications!

Picking a wedding date should not be so difficult. But so far, it has been the main source of heartache and headaches.

The one thing Ohio and I want most at our wedding is to have our families there with us. Neither of us wants to get married without them there.

The problem is that I have two brothers who are both in the military. This means we have to plan a wedding around when they will probably be deployed.

One of my brothers will be deployed until August, which means we can plan a late summer or early fall wedding and HOPE that he returns back to the states in time. But, you never really know when a deployment is going to end. My other brother is not currently scheduled for deployment, but that could change at any time.

So basically, I am planning a wedding that my brothers might not be able to attend. Not having my brothers at my wedding will totally break my heart.

The other complication is that Ohio's family lives in Ohio and will need to take time off of work to come to our west coast wedding. Since FMIL (Future-Mother-In-Law) is a teacher, having our wedding during the time that my brothers are most likely to not be deployed means they will only be able take a few days off for the wedding. Ohio and I had been hoping they could make a longer trip so our families could spend more time with each other.

Why not just wait and get married in the spring or summer of 2011? Among other things, starting next year I can expect that at least one of my brothers will be deployed pretty much every month of the year- meaning we need to get married sooner rather than later.

How did you deal with the complications of picking a wedding date?