Ohio is one of those grooms-to-be who really wants to leave all the planning up to me. He doesn't care about decorations or colors or flowers. He doesn't have opinions on photographers or any other vendors.
To give him credit, he really tries to act interested when I show him different wedding invitations, but its pretty obvious that he doesn't really care.
He has told me that there are three simple things he cares about when it comes to our wedding:
1. Music. Since Ohio produces music and is a part-time DJ, he obviously wants us to have lots of good music at our wedding.
2. Mashed potatoes. He insists we serve them at the wedding reception.
3. That I show up.
For a while this really bothered me. I was annoyed. I wanted him to care- after all this was OUR wedding! I felt like all the weight of planning was falling on my shoulders.
Last week I made a resolution to stop being annoyed and accept that I cannot make Ohio care about the little details. He had mentioned that he wanted to help, but had no idea what needed to be done. So instead of wasting my time nagging him, I made a list of things he could do to help with the planning. I tried to identify tasks that he would enjoy, like looking into our post-wedding transportation options, rehearsal dinner locations and deciding on what wines to serve at our wedding.
So far, this has been a good strategy. Ohio has been more than happy to help now that he has some direction on what to do and I am a much happier bride-to-be.
How involved is your fiance in the wedding planning? How are you breaking up the planning responsibilities?
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